Monday, December 6, 2010

The Secret to Success Is SUPPORT!

What makes an effective mother? I suppose that depends on how you define effective. To me, being effective means keeping your children & husband happy & your home & life in order while keeping your sanity in tact.

Sounds nearly impossible! And, to be honest, I think it IS without support from other women.

I believe wholeheartedly that in order to be the best mom & wife I'm capable of being, I need to first be the best woman I'm capable of being. When I've taken care of myself, by connecting with other women/moms who understand my struggles, my joys & my insecurities (because they have them too!), I am sooo much more fun for my family to be around! When I take time to acknowledge that I am a woman, not just a mom and a wife, then I remember that I am young, fun, sexy, happy, funny... ALIVE!

It's so important to have that support of other women.... we really are from two different worlds... men & women. No matter how hard they try, they just will never understand us in the same way as our girlfriends can. Without speaking a word, our girlfriends can authenticate value to our efforts, validating our sorrows, joining us in laughter.

When I have taken time for me, whether I am doing a favorite activity like scrapbooking with my girlfriends, or dancing with my husband, I am 100% more patient & loving towards my family & 100% more productive & energized taking care of my mom/wife responsibilities. And the opposite is true also. The less time I set aside for doing things just for me, the more irritable & impatient I become.

I came across this quote today by Doris Roberts...
"I think women are taught to ask permission about everything. 
We don't realize that we are entitled and we do have a say in our lives." 

So, if you haven't set aside time for yourself in awhile, why don't you now?! Sign up for our rescheduled Sushi Night this Friday, December 10th. The signup sheet is on the bulletin board on the left wall when you come in the front entrance at MCH. Come see what we are all about & enjoy some "me" time.

And don't forget, an effective mom keeps her schedule open for her children & spouse, but remembers to add in wiggle room for herself to keep everyone happy!

~ And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. ~ 
Nelson Mandela